Sub-fever and the submissive response

Greetings,

Long time no see. Holidays, spirits, herbs, and rope sessions will do that to a fellow. Someone made a suggestion to me today, and I ended up writing the following.

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What, if any, is the relationship between sub-fever and the submissive response? Do they always go hand in hand, or are they two independent phenomena that often occur together? Or is something else?

Some definitions are in order. Sub-fever may be defined as a state of intense arousal that can not be satisfied solely by the sexual behaviour. A female (I suppose males can feel it but I have never encountered it in my experience) gripped by sub-fever exists in a state of constant heightened stimulation. Those who feel it for the first time have nothing really to compare it to, however since the symptoms include being wet much of the time, a constant obsession with sex, and a deep desire to be wanton and sluttish beyond anything they have ever felt before, they identify as being "very horny". Yet no amount of sex seems to satisfy the itch. Girls can rub themselves raw and still want more.

What these females require, beyond the sex, is the opportunity to submit to a dominant male. What they are really seeking, without really understanding why, is the matching power-flow of a dominant partner. Only this brings a relief to the fever.

Since this state is generally only found in submissive females, it is therefore called sub-fever.

However just because a particular male provokes sub-fever in a female does not imply that she will fully submit. Cases of females gripped in the heat of the fever who do not submit are common enough in our society and mythologies. Consider all the classical stories of women attracted to a "bad boy" (biker, thief, hardcase, etc). What is the attraction? Is it the physicality (their size)? Is it their attitude (arrogance, vanity, conceit)? Perhaps it is the power they wield (the married oil baron, politician, etc). Regardless of the participants the story is much the same. The female is attracted, cannot resist the allure and charm of the fellow, and throws herself at him over and over again, even though she knows from previous experiences that it will end badly. She finds herself unable to resist. The story ends with her being tossed aside, used goods, and she is left with memories and her tragedy.

Of course, in real life the same story ends somewhat different. In most cases, the girl simply gets bored and leaves. In fact, most of the time she leaves after the first or second sexual encounter. It seems that whatever has attracted the female to the male vanishes into thin air once the sex has taken place.

To make matters even more interesting, the sex itself turns out often to be rather anti-climatic, not quite living up to the billing which the attraction (i.e. fever) had suggested.

And then, at some point in the future, the whole process starts again with more or less the same results each time. In this way, it is possible for a woman to go through quite a number of men.

Of course, from the pov of a D/s dynamic this makes a great deal of sense. The sub-fever is provoked by an illusion of dominance that the male projects. As we know, true dominance is not found in body shapes, or external trappings of power, but rather is an internal state which may probably be genetic in origin. Still, it is obviously possible for many females to be provoked into a sub-fever response even by the illusion.

Of course, once the sex takes place, the female realizes that a) no true D/s dynamic has taken place, and b) with this realization the sub-fever disappears and she has little to no further interest in the male.

While sub-fever may be a marker or indicator of a submissive female, one cannot know for sure until a true submissive response has been provoked. Normally this cannot happen unless she is in a longer term relationship with a matching dominant male.

The submissive response (unlike sub-fever) is characterized by a desire to serve, to obey, to be pleasing. It may be considered an outgrowth of sub-fever since the only real way to satisfy the fever is by providing an opportunity for the female to serve with the framework of a D/s relationship. Almost all newly provoked submissives are often amazed to discover that balance and calm return as soon as they are kneeling at the feet of their dominant partner, performing a service (serving a drink, a meal, etc), or being put to sexual use.

So, the submissive response is the true marker to the female that she is with a matching dominant partner. She doesn't get bored. She doesn't want to leave. The fever doesn't fade. IOW - she is hooked.

Sadly, there seems to be a true lack of dominant males around who can provoke this sort of response in females. Well, in truth I don't feel that there is really a lack of males, what I feel is that there is a lack of males who are ready to allow their dominant natures express themselves.

I am neither a stud or a hunk. I do not own a motorcycle. I don't own a gun, and I am pretty sure I would not do to well in a fight. I don't have a great deal of wealth. I have no position of power. Yet, time and time again, females have begged to serve me. And they burn for me, the sub-fever staying hot and fresh down through the years, even though I may speak to them only a few times a year. Why? I would suggest it is because I have provoked their deeper submissive response and because of that they will always be ready to serve in any manner I wish, and be excited to do so.

Sub-fever is hot and tense, like water brought to the boil. But unless the heat is kept on, the water soon becomes tepid and then cools completely. The submissive response keeps the fire flamed, by tuning into the deeper more powerful submissive nature of the female. This can be done by any dominant male who understands the process.

Be seeing you,