Why I admire humilation sluts

Greetings all,

There are many forms of sluts out there, but the ones I think I admire the most are humiliation sluts. Perhaps this sounds a bit paradoxical, so I shall explain.

In the world of BDSM the term slut is used frequently, and rarely in a derogatory manner. In fact, on forums such as “Sluts, Cunts, and Whores” on FetLife, the term is used with pride by many of the participants to describe themselves. It is sort of a badge of honour. Of course, there are sluts, and then there are sluts. I think that sluts can be categorized into one of three groups; pleasure sluts, pain sluts, and humiliation sluts.

Pleasure sluts, often simply called sluts, are perhaps the largest and best known group. These tend to be individuals who love sex, embrace sex, and crave sex. While this is something that is probably true for many in the vanilla world what sets the pleasure slut apart from others is her willingness to display her needs, and her acceptance of her nature. She knows who she is and she loves it. And while she may not crave every possible form of sex, what she does, she does with gusto. Pleasure sluts are common in the world of BDSM because it is a frequent component of submission, discipline, and bondage.

Pain sluts are a smaller, but still fairly large group. The pain slut is a female who craves extreme sensations, those of a nature and a character that others would view as painful, and something to avoid. For whatever reason, pain sluts gain a rich physical satisfaction from being handled by a sadist. And while all pain sluts have their limits (which vary from slut to slut), what they have in common is a desire to be physically handled in a way that evokes a response of pain which they then process as pleasure.

I like pleasure and pain sluts a great deal. This should not be surprising. I like sex, and I am a sadist. It makes sense that I would find such women attractive and of interest. Happily, there are many of them around.

While I am respectful of pleasure and pain sluts for having the courage to accept their nature and displaying their needs, I really admire the humiliation slut (HS). The HS is an individual who craves demeaning and degrading handling, or as it is sometimes said “being put low”. For the HS, the more humiliating the task, the more degrading the language that is used to describe them, the more they are aroused and empowered. Why this should be I do not know. However, I have met enough humiliation sluts to assure me that this is how they are wired.

The sort of treatment an HS craves can be physical, emotional, or intellectual in character. For example, they could be required to drag themselves through dirt, or made to clean a floor with their tongue. All manner of vulgarities could be used to describe them. Or they could be caged or made into human furniture. And while like a pain slut most humiliation sluts have limits (for example scat, or enemas, etc) still the main thing they crave is being treated as objects or things. What makes them different from the pleasure and pain sluts is that “humiliation” is primarily a mental state an attack on one’s self-image, where pain and pleasure are much more physical and do not impact the mind as much (sub-space not withstanding).

IOW – from my pov, pleasure and pain sluts share a commonality in that what they mostly crave is physical sensations. The pain and pleasure they receive is from the body. In fact, they can engage in pain and/or pleasure play while still remaining more or less in control of their own mental states. IOW – they are sluts of the body, rather than of the mind.

Here is an excerpt from an email I received from a girl I know rather well:

“What makes humiliation so effectively arousing is that it is really a total surrender, probably more so than any other kind of play. In sex, ropes or pain play, it's really a physical surrender, but one can surrender physically and still keep a safe emotional or intellectual distance, if one wishes to do so. In humiliation, when done well, it's impossible to keep one's distance and so there is an emotional/intellectual surrender which cuts deeper than simply a physical surrender. And it goes without saying that the physical surrender will automatically follow the emotional/intellectual surrender...hence a complete surrender. If you've taken the mind, you've got the body. Given that so much of sexual arousal and attraction exists between the ears in many if not most women, it follows that a good mindfuck has the potential to be so much more powerful (and mindblowing) than a bodyfuck. “

A humiliation slut is therefore a special case of the general category of masochist. As I have said in the past a masochist is any individual who becomes aroused through extreme sensations which others would generally classify as pain. For the most part, this has always been classified as physical pain, whips, blades, wax, etc. However, there are other forms of pain, intellectual and emotional pain. What sets the humiliation slut apart is her desire for these other forms of pain, and her ability to effectively process it.

It should be obvious that the effective processing of humiliation is critical success factor for the HS. Obviously there are many women out there who are demeaned and degraded as part of their everyday life. Sometimes we call these women victims of abuse, or sexual harassment. But the HS does not fall into these categories for two principle reasons:

1) It is being done with her consent.
2) Rather than feeling down and depressed by this sort of treatment it empowers and excites her.

Still, one must wonder at the strength of character, the rock bed of self-esteem, and the sheer amount of self-worth such females must have in order to properly deal with intense humiliation play. While one may be impressed by the number of needles a girl may be able to tolerate piercing her flesh, I would suggest one must be even more impressed by a girl who can clean a toilet bowl with her tongue and come out feeling good about herself on the other side of the experience. While one may be amazed by a girl’s ability to have sex with many partners in a single evening, or her craving to swallow cum, one must be even more amazed when she orgasms from drinking piss, or begs to be kept like a dog, and feels empowered by doing these things.

Hence the reason that I admire the humiliation slut. They are indeed a special class of masochists.

Please note that I am not suggesting that these girls are of better or worse quality than others. Certainly I have known many powerful submissives who are not humiliation sluts. Too, I certainly have no objection to a session with a girl who has acknowledged that she is a pain slut but who draws a limit line at humiliation play. I do not judge people by the nature or intensity of their kink. Further, it goes without say that a slut can be into pain pleasure and humiliation all at the same time. It is not an either-or sort of a thing. For example, many of the pain sluts I know are also humiliation sluts of one kind or another. Just because one enjoys one sort of treatment does not preclude craving another.

Still, because they are quite rare imo, the humiliation slut does require special mention. This form of play is in many ways the most dangerous since it holds the potential for serious long-term psychological damage. One must be very careful. And it is certainly not for the faint of heart. But, if one is the sort of sadist who finds pleasure in putting a girl low, it is certainly nice to find a girl who craves this sort of attention. Happily, I have met one or two down through the years.

Be seeing you,