Sadistic pleasures?

Greetings,

A little while ago rose asked the following question in a comment she left:

>> rose: but i have disgressed. the reason i am writing this is to ask a question regarding this post. you speak of a submissives, without a masochistic tendency, to withstand pain, in order to please her dominant. i can understand that. what i am interested in is the dominants point of view. how does it feel for a dominant to inflict pain upon a submissive that he knows does not enjoy it. i imagine it would be an incredible feeling. of her giving. of the connection.

but, let's take a dom with a sadistic streak. would he be able to do it again and again over time? or would he maybe start to feel uncomfortable? would knowing she is not getting any physical pleasure put a damper on it eventually? doms are, after all, human.<<

Before I answer I think it is important to clarify the phrase “how does it feel for a dominant to inflict pain upon a submissive that he knows does not enjoy it”. As I have mentioned, there are submissives who will endure much to please their dominant. They accept harsh treatment since it pleases their dominant, and in doing so they satisfy their own nature. However, this is still a consensual relationship. I want to make sure we are clear on this matter.

Too, I also want to be clear that it is not always a trait of a dominant to inflict pain. That is the domain of the sadist. And while it is true that many dominants are also sadist this is far from a universal truth. Therefore it would be more appropriate for you to ask how does a sadist feel doing these things.

In a word, it feels good.

IMO – it is the nature of the sadist to become aroused through the infliction of pain. As long as the girl consents, then the sadist will enjoy himself (though sadly it is true that there are those who enjoy the infliction of pain withoiut consent, but that is another sort of person). True, there is a special feedback when dealing with a masochist of quality, but there is also a unique pleasure which comes from knowing that the girl is enduring this treatment simply out of her need to serve.

Or, in the words of the famous song writer Jimmy Pop; “The lap dance is always better when the stripper is crying.”

I remember well the first time I took a girl in her ass knowing that she would not enjoy it, and that it would cause her suffering. It was quite thrilling. I used her hard and with little mercy. Afterward, she told me that while it hurt, it had also been exhilarating for her. Not in a sexual way, but rather a form of mental/emotional satisfaction from being used without regard to her own feelings. She thrilled to the idea of simply being used for the pleasure of another.

This is quite a bit different than using a masochist who is aroused by pain. The sadomasochist interaction dynamic is therefore quite a bit different than that of a submissive who craves service. Both have there place. I have no preference between the two since they are quite different in the particular pleasure they provide me.

So, as a sadist would I keep on doing something that I knew she did not enjoy? Yes, I would. However, wearing my dominant hat, I might find it a challenge to do things to a girl that I knew she did not enjoy. Punishment is one thing that comes to mind as an example.

As far as the pleasure (or the lack thereof) she would derive from the experience this is secondary. I consider my own pleasure paramount. Once a girl gives her consent, I do things to satisfy my pleasure. I know that she will be satisfied so long as I am uncompromising in her use.

Be seeing you,