So how do you tell your man that you think you are submissive?

Greetings all,

A bit of a roll going on here today. I was asked a question by a female submissive concerning how to let her male partner know that she has discovered her nature and wants him to (hopefully) become involved as well. Here is the question and my reply,

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> From there, how does she explain that to her
> man?

The easy answer is that she follows the first two rules of a D/s relationship which is to say 1) She is honest with him about her current feelings and 2) She trusts him to do what is right.

The more difficult answer is that every relationship is different, and honesty is not always felt to be the best policy.

I am not a councillor, I would not presume to advice anyone on how to open the BDSM door from within the confines of their own home. Once the door is open I am more than willing to share of my own knowledge and experience, but until then there is little I can do.

There is, sadly, a great risk associated with revealing her nature to her "man". He may reject her calling her a pervert or slut. He may be incredulous, not willing to believe what she is saying. He may become angry and consider her "research" to be a form of betrayal. He may gossip, and let everyone know what she has revealed to him in the greatest of confidences.

Not all men are willing to entertain the notion that they have not been able to fully satisfy their women, eh?

Even fewer are willing to allow a "mentor/advisor/trainer/whatever" into the deepest and most private intimacies of their relationship with their woman.

Not an easy thing at all.

Be seeing you,