Greetings all,
Your question lacks precision. Terms such as "mentoring" and "training" are open to a great deal of interpretation and therefore the responses you have received have been filtered through the history and perception of each individual.
Therefore, although I have mentored and trained a few girls myself, and could certainly give you opinions based on my own experiences I will take a somewhat more general approach in my reply.
The basic question is, why would the Master of a female send her to another for any aspects of her development or enhancement? And, if he does, would this imply incompetence or laziness on his part, as some of the responders have implied?
There are many examples which might suggest that quite the opposite is true, which is to say that it is a sign of a responsible and committed Master to give his girl to another for some purpose. For example, say I own a horse. While I wish to ride it, I might wish another to train it. Or, perhaps I own a car which I like to race, but I am not a mechanic. I therefore find a specialist who can make my car the well-tuned machine I wish to drive. Or perhaps I am a musician whose instrument requires some fine tuning, rather than do the work myself I again take it to a specialist. I play it, and care for it, and part of that care is knowing when it requires the hands of another for things I cannot do myself.
Now, when it comes to the ownership of a slave, there are many occasions when I might feel "too close" to the girl to perform that special fine tuning. Or perhaps, in the same way that some young ladies are sent to fine finishing schools to round out their education, I recognize that I do not have the full set of skills required. Or, I appreciate that certain aspects of a girl's development may be too challenging for me because I love my girl too much. Regardless, imo it is a sign of wisdom and maturity when a Master realizes that others might be able to help in the development of his property.
Call the help "training" or "mentoring", it really doesn't matter.
Finally, I believe that when a girl is given to another for some aspects of her development it makes her acutely aware that she is property, rather than a partner. This is a good thing for a slave to learn.
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Be seeing you,
3 comments:
Mr Cross: I made a similar point myself in a post recently. Years ago, I asked my ski instructor if he taught his wife to ski. His response was something like:
"Do I look silly? No, I gave that job to another man."
We've been married a long time and love one another a great deal. Where I asked to go was best achieved with the assistance of a mentor.
I don't personally relate to your final statement, however. Whilst I refer in my writings to my husband as "my owner" and accept that I am his "property" it is not part of the reason we use a mentor. He would not want me to have that mindset.
I consider my husband incredibly wise and understanding of what is right for both of us to allow this. And, I would also add that if he thought for one moment that it was damaging to our marriage, the mentoring would be dust. He looks for it to enhance our partnership.
Only a man very sure of his role in a woman's life can allow this, I would have thought.
Greetings Vesta,
Thank you for your comments.
Speaking as a ski instructor (currently CSIA Lev 1, but soon to have my Lev 2), I can appreciate your husband's comments. They make perfect sense.
It is also a testimony to the strength and character of your marriage that your husband has not felt threatened or degraded by the fact that you have been mentored in the past. While couples, regardless of their development can probably benefit from joint mentoring, to allow one's partner to be mentored/trained by another requires a high degree of confidence and trust. Kudos to the both of you.
As to not agreeing with my final comment concerning a girl being made to feel like property, I agree that this does not always have to be the case. My views on the whole "Master/slave" thing are quite well known. So, my comments were more addressed to those girls who start off from the position that "Only one man can master me" or "I am only a slave to my master" or "My master is the only man to whom I will submit".
To my way of thinking this attitude often needs correction. Either one is submissive or one is not. If one accepts one's nature as being submissive then one must accept that there response may be provoked by any Dominant who matches their power/energy. True, such a submissive may choose to surrender to only one man, but that changes nothing.
Often, third party mentoring/training can help correct this attitude.
Be seeing you,
Dear Mr. Cross: Thank you for the lovely compliment. I hope one day you might elaborate more on the final paragraph of your comment here.
I agree that a woman with a submissive nature quite naturally responds to the energy of a dominant man - not just one. If she is in a committed relationship, or even if she is not, she is aware of this vulnerability within her, and so, she will aim to keep it in check. Better perhaps, to hide her true nature than allow it to get her into trouble, she may think.
Where I am going with this? As an older woman I know how to deal with these emotions and responses now, but as a younger girl, I did not. If the mentoring/training allows a girl to come to terms with that response whereby she neither hides it nor is concerned by expressing it, that's a good thing. And, a worthy topic for a future post, perhaps.
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