Odds and ends - Number 1

Greetings all,

Lacking anything in particular that I felt like writing about today, I thought I would post a couple of excerpts from some of my recent, and not so recent, emails:

On some of the difficulty of being a married submissive, and wishing to have a D/s relationship outside of the marriage, even with the husband's permission:

... the problem with being
married and having a D/s relationship outside of the
marriage is sometimes the wishes of the husband are in
conflict with the wishes of the Dom. This places the
girl into a very difficult situation, because by
pleasing one, she will displease the other.

With respect to ways a submissive may serve beyond the sexual:

 Kneeling
or lying at his feet. Massaging parts of his body.
Reading to him. Consider the way of the geisha. What
were the non-sexual things she did for her clients?
Think outside of the box. What does he like? What does
he enjoy? Could he use more time alone? Perhaps he
would like to try another woman? 

On how to become pleasing to a new dominant partner:

The most important lesson is that each dominant is
different, and each will train you in their
requirements. Therefore, the most important thing a
submissive can learn is how to quickly learn and adapt
to a new dominant. She does this by not assuming
anything, by accepting that she will make errors, and
that she can not be pleasing until he has taught her
what she needs to know.

Of course, she comes to him understanding the basics
which all well developed submissives must know..
honesty, trust, obedience, respectful behaviour,
pleasing movements, etc. This is the foundation on
which he will build the framework and structure for
her.

She also comes with a good understanding of the
difference between D/s and abuse. She must know how to
keep herself safe.

Be seeing you,