Tasting submissive power

Greetings all,

I was watching some videos today of a man binding women into unusual and difficult positions. I greatly admire his work. It is extreme and, to my eyes, honest. To the best of my knowledge he is only known as "pd".

Beyond appreciating the creativity and artistry, what I truly respect about pd's work is the interaction between himself and the girl. He never rushes his movements. He does things in a calm and deliberate manner. He rarely raises his voice. He never takes his clothes off. And yet, he has this amazing intensity about him that is both erotic and terrifying. When a girl is under his hand, there is no question of the power he has over her. She is fearful of this power, but there is also an undeniable erotic attraction.

This interaction is clearly displayed in the videos.

This led me to wonder about what sort of woman would willingly consent to be treated in such a manner, bound in positions that others might label as demeaning or humiliating, but which to her are sensual and satisfying.

I suppose the easy answer would be say that she obviously has low self-esteem and little sense of self-worth. Perhaps even a history of being abused as a child. IOW - a woman who felt powerless.

I think that sort of answer is something one commonly hears from people who do not understand the D/s dynamic. On the surface, it appears that the submissive is a passive doormat, and by inference must have some sort of psychological problem which has caused this condition.

I couldn't disagree more.

It has been my experience that it requires a tremendous amount of personal power for a female to submit to the power of a dominant. She must be confident in her own sense of personal value, as well as mature enough to process the D/s interaction dynamic without causing her undue tension. Such capabilities would not be generally found in a doormat.

Further, while the dominant is in control, his satisfaction is derived from the energy which the submissive provides. Simply put, there is very little satisfaction in doing a scene with a lump of passive flesh. Such a thing might be of interest to a man who has little sense of personal power, but every dominant I have ever respected all speak of the same thing, that there pleasure is derived from the feedback of the female.

IOW - unless the submissive is well balanced, powerful, and confident, she simply can not develop as a girl of quality. When I mentor or train girls this is often the aspect I have to work on the most. Many women are conflicted when it comes to D/s. In their hearts they yearn for it, but society says that to submit means they are weak and powerless. This conflict must be reconciled before they can really learn about the "freedom of the ropes."

Too, very powerfully dominant males will tend to seek out powerful submissives (or perhaps the reverse is true). On more than one occasion I have encountered women who have told me that they had never bowed to any man, but would submit to me. Why is that? Nature calls to nature. Power calls to power. People seek balance.

The whole notion of a powerless submissive makes no sense to me, any more than the notion of a powerless dominant. The well-developed submissive is confident, assured, and powerful. In her domestic life she will be dynamic, decisive, and often a leader of others. There is no contradictions in this, rather it makes perfect sense.

What dominant would want a lump of meat when he could taste the energy provided by a powerful woman who has submitted to his will, begged his collar, and pleads for his bondage? And, once tasted, he will never be able to go back to a more mundane interaction.

Be seeing you,